Should i break up

It may seem cruel to end a relationship over the phone or by text or email, but your safety is more important than protecting their feelings. If you break up in person, do it in a public place. Have a trusted friend or family member wait nearby and bring a cell phone with you if you can.

Keep your phone nearby in case you need to call for help. Trust yourself. If you feel afraid, take your fears seriously. Ask for help. Chat with an advocate now to talk through your situation. Consider taking steps after breaking up to ensure your ongoing safety: If you find yourself getting hung up on old memories, stay strong and remember why you made your decision in the first place. Talk with your trusted friends and family to identify ways they can support you.

Talk to a trusted counselor or teacher to try and adjust your class schedule or find other ways to stay safer at school. Avoid isolated areas at school or local hangouts, and avoid walking alone or wearing headphones while out in public. Contact us at letters time. By Carly Breit. Related Stories. The Surprising Benefits of Being an Introvert.

Already a print subscriber? Go here to link your subscription. Be honest — but not brutal. Tell the other person the things that attracted you in the first place, and what you like about him or her.

Then say why you want to move on. Think of ways to be kind and gentle while still being honest. Say it in person. You've shared a lot with each other. Respect that and show your good qualities by breaking up in person. If you live far away, try to video chat or at least make a phone call. Breaking up through texting or Facebook may seem easy. But think about how you'd feel if your BF or GF did that to you — and what your friends would say about that person's character! If it helps, confide in someone you trust.

It can help to talk through your feelings with a trusted friend. But be sure the person you confide in can keep it private until you have your actual break-up conversation with your BF or GF.

That's one reason why parents, older sisters or brothers, and other adults can be great to talk to. They're not going to blab or let it slip out accidentally. DON'T: Don't avoid the other person or the conversation you need to have.

Dragging things out makes it harder in the long run — for you and your BF or GF. Plus, when people put things off, information can leak out anyway. You never want the person you're breaking up with to hear it from someone else before hearing it from you. Don't rush into a difficult conversation without thinking it through. You may say things you regret. Don't disrespect.

Speak about your ex or soon-to-be ex with respect. Be careful not to gossip or badmouth him or her. Think about how you'd feel. You'd want your ex to say only positive things about you after you're no longer together. Plus, you never know — your ex could turn into a friend or you might even rekindle a romance someday. This could mean spending more time traveling, signing up for a new class, or visiting with friends and family. Recognizing when a relationship has come to its end can be an emotional roller coaster with many ups and downs.

Above all, be kind to yourself throughout the process. Going through a breakup can be traumatic. Similar to other traumas, like the death of a loved one, breakups can cause overwhelming, long-lasting grief. A true narcissist will exhibit behaviors that…. We can only handle friendships at a time. Are dilated pupils really a sign of attraction?

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